I watched college basketball’s championship game tonight between Kansas and North Carolina. North Carolina had a 16 point lead after 15 minutes of play. They were stomping Kansas who was highly favored to win. At halftime, North Carolina was ahead by a whopping 15 points. No team in the history of College basketball has ever come back and won in a NCAA championship game when 15 points down. But Kansas came out after half time and erased the lead and won the game by three points.

I wish I could have been in the locker room at half-time and heard the speach that the coach gave to his players. At the start of the second half of the game Kansas was a different team. Something ignited in each player an incredible will to win that drove them to play exceptional basketball. Words have almost supernatural power, and really good leaders have discovered that fact, but they have also discovered how to communicate those words to those they are leading.

It has been said that everything rises and falls on leadership. John Wooden was one of the greatest college basketball coaches of all time. He started coaching UCLA when I was born in 1948 and he retired when I graduated from college in 1975. In those years, he won ten national championships, and an even dozen books have been written about his leadership philosophy, practice, and skills.

There are a few people who are gifted leaders, they lead intuitively, but most have to learn the art and the skill of leading. The most significant barrier to most people in leadership positions becoming good leaders is their pride; they think they already know how to lead well and have the skill when in fact, they are total novices.

The best way to learn how to lead well is from those who obviously do, but again pride keeps most from seeking counsel and input from others, no matter how good they are.

Husbands, look around and see what men have great marriages and ask for them to give you counsel. Fathers, look around and see who has raised champions and ask for them to mentor you. Wives do the same; Pastors do the same; Youth group leaders do the same; employers do the same, and on and on. God is particularly impressed with those who humble themselves to learn from others. He blesses them and uses them.

Leadership success is to important to let our personal pride keep us from learning and growing in this skill. When we lead well, everyone we influence benefits.

A New Jersey university is launching what it called the world’s first “Master of Arts in Happiness Studies,” and it only costs $17,500 for the 18 month program.

I don’t know for sure, but I am guessing that in the program you are supposed to learn what will make you happy in life. The Bible can tell me that for free, and I am sure it will work much better than the information in the University study program.

Psalms 128:1-2 How blessed is everyone who fears the Lord,
Who walks in His ways.
When you shall eat of the fruit of your hands,
You will be happy and it will be well with you.

Jesus preached what is called “the sermon on the Mount,” also called the “Beatitudes.” This sermon could also be called “How to be Happy in Eight Easy Ways.” Let me paraphrase four of them.

Those who are gracious in their speech, who work hard to be kind and gentle in how they deal with a problem or difficulty with another person so as not hurt or offend them will be extremely happy in life.

The person who wants to be righteous and holy in all that they do, and diligently pursues a righteous lifestyle will be very happy.

A person who can’t stand being at odds with another person and does everything possible to reconcile with anybody who is angry or upset with them will be as happy as a duck on a pond.

Anybody who forgives anyone of anything because Jesus has forgiven them of everything will be filled to overflowing with happiness.

Now that didn’t take 18 months to learn in our head, but it probably will take much longer than 18 months to learn in our heart so we actually live it.

Lazarus died from some kind of sickness that lasted for awhile. He was washed with spices and herbs and wrapped in cloth after he died and buried in a cave. After he had been dead for four days Jesus raised him from the dead.

John 11:43-44 When He had said these things, He cried out with a loud voice, “Lazarus, come forth.” The man who had died came forth, bound hand and foot with wrappings, and his face was wrapped around with a cloth. Jesus said to them, “Unbind him, and let him go.”

So, I wonder how many people asked Lazarus how that four days was, and how it felt to die, and how upset was he that he got raised from the dead. What did he think when he regained consciousness but couldn’t see because of the burial cloths around his head and eyes, and then saw Jesus and his sisters. I bet the next time he died was not much of a big deal.

The biggest problem we have with dying is the unknown. Our own impending death, and the impending death of our family and friends wouldn’t be as scary if we knew exactly what was going to happen, and what it felt like. But we don’t. Our own impending death probably takes more faith than any other aspect of our life. All we know is what the Bible tells us, and you either believe the Bible or you don’t.

Philippians 1:21-24 For to me, to live is Christ and to die is gain. But if I am to live on in the flesh, this will mean fruitful labor for me; and I do not know which to choose. But I am hard-pressed from both directions, having the desire to depart and be with Christ, for that is very much better.

Paul seemed anxious to die, “having the desire to depart and be with Christ for that is very much better.” It is coming, the day of my death, the day I step into the presence of Christ, it is getting closer every day. I wonder what it will be like, how it will feel. If Lazarus were around I would ask him, but he died, twice.

Jim Lee died Wednesday from cancer. He was a good friend. I went to the Portland swap meet today and I remembered that the first time I ever went over 30 years ago was with Jim. I remember him being pretty serious about the method that we used as we went through the various buildings so that we wouldn’t miss seeing anything that was there. I still remembered that today as I went from row to row and building to building methodically so as not to miss seeing a thing. One of the funniest things I remember about Jim is how hard he tried to have each of our kids say Studebaker as their first word spoken!

I have Pastored JBC for 46 years, and there are 16 people in the church now who have been here as long or close to as long as me, and Jim and Janet are two of those faithful people. Though I guess it would be more accurate to say 15 now because Jim is in heaven with the Lord. The terms that I would use for those 16 are enduring pillars and faithful friends. I seriously doubt whether I would still be here as the Pastor of JBC had it not been for their leadership, personal sacrifice, and hard work.

With all the work we have done on building the various facilities here at JBC over the last 46 years one of the things we would often do on a Friday night was have an all-night work party setting up lights and working until daylight and then going out for breakfast. Jim was at many of those all-nighters, and his enthusiasm would keep everyone awake and working hard through the night.

The last 46 years have been fun, challenging, and amazing. The best part has been building His Church together with other faithful people. It is amazing all that God can do through people who love each other and work together in humility and unity. It is sad to think about the fact that the core group of 16 is starting to shrink in number until we will all be gone gone. But what we have done together will be remembered and built upon for many more years until Jesus comes.

A saw an advertisement for a dentistry called “gentle dental.” That is an attractive ad! I don’t like going to the dentist because of the pain! Though I have to admit it is mostly in my head from when I was a kid.

Gentleness is a character trait that is talked about a lot in the Bible. Jesus was described as gentle, and He declared Himself to be gentle.

Matthew 5:5 Blessed are the gentle, for they shall inherit the earth.

Philippians 4:5 Let your gentle spirit be known to all men. The Lord is near.

What does it mean to be gentle? Is it bordering on weakness? According to the Bible, it is one of the most effective of all character traits in helping other people to get over their problems, sins, addictions, and weaknesses.

When you are helping people by counseling them, encouraging them, holding them accountable, reproving them, teaching them, scolding them, and motivating them there is a perfect balance between toughness and graciousness that is needed. Those with gentleness have that perfect balance.

A person with the character trait of gentleness is wise; they understand people, they sympathize with weaknesses and struggles that others have, and most importantly, they want very much to help people become successful in life.

Of the 26 character traits that I have studied, and tried to grow in, all of them are connected and interdependent on each other. Gentleness is wise, self-controlled, patient, humble, challenging, and loyal. Gentleness is undoubtedly not weak.

How do I become a gentle person? The first requirement is to have a strong desire to help others grow to become more like Jesus in character. Then there needs to be a constant self-evaluation of our level of success or failure in every attempt to help. It is like any other skill, practice, practice, practice. When gentleness becomes a skill and we persevere in helping others and in getting better at it, the skill moves gradually to a character trait.

When we become gentle people in our hearts, we have become very valuable to God in moving people to be perfect and complete lacking nothing.

Isaiah 55:8-9
“For My thoughts are not your thoughts,
Nor are your ways My ways,” declares the Lord.
“For as the heavens are higher than the earth,
So are My ways higher than your ways
And My thoughts than your thoughts.

One of the things that is clear in the Bible is that God often starts wars. But when we pray we always pray for peace, why? During times of war many more people trust Christ as their savior than during times of peace. During times of war the amount of prayer offered up to God is many times greater than during peace. The growth in character in the lives of Christians during war is much more than times of peace. So why do we pray for peace? Well, because people die during war! Everybody is going to die. Is there some reason why we think it is better to die from cancer or covid or even old age instead of having a bomb drop on our house?

In Revelation it says that the number who get saved and end up in heaven is not able to be counted. That is a lot of people. Why? Because of war, pestilence, wild beasts, and famine. We would certainly pray against all those things, but would a multitude so great they weren’t able to be counted still get saved? Probably not, a fraction of the final number would get saved. So, tell me, why do we pray for peace?

Revelation 6:8 I looked, and behold, an ashen horse; and he who sat on it had the name Death; and Hades was following with him. Authority was given to them over a fourth of the earth, to kill with sword and with famine and with pestilence and by the wild beasts of the earth.

Revelation 7:9 behold, a great multitude which no one could count, from every nation and all tribes and peoples and tongues, standing before the throne and before the Lamb, clothed in white robes, and palm branches were in their hands;

Revelation 7:14 These are the ones who come out of the great tribulation, and they have washed their robes and made them white in the blood of the Lamb.

I have been counseling a lot of people in the last year trying to help them with depression. It seems to be epidemic right now with all the upheaval in our culture. What I have found is that most don’t have an activity that is emotional energy renewing in their life. vacations are good but they are to far apart to really be of much help. For our physical energy, we sleep and eat every day, not once a year, so we need something like that to fill our emotional gas tank, something that is at least weekly, and preferably several times each week. Many don ‘t because they are so busy and don’t think they have time. That makes as much sense as not stopping to put gas in your car when empty because you will be late for work if you do.

Some things that don’t work that many think will. Watching television is the most common activity by those who think that it relaxes and renews them. It doesn’t, and in fact it will be more draining than filling. Television viewing is pretty much a total waste of time in light of what it positively accomplishes in our life. Another is sitting and doing nothing which is what many struggling with depression do. Most often the mental activity when that is done is negative which is a super emotionally draining activity. Accessive sleeping is also of little help in filling up our emotional gas tank.

It would be nice if there was a list of things that worked well for everyone but there isn’t, we are all different, and what revives us is also different. So, your number one goal ought to be to experiment and figure out what works for you. High achievers are almost always operating with a nearly full gas tank of passion and fire, because they know what works for them.

Friday I am going up to Portland to the “Swap Meet”. That is an event at the Expo Center that has hundreds if not thousands of antique and classic cars and trucks and hundreds of venders selling parts to every old car ever made. I am going up with a good friend and a grandson. Based on past experience the day will fill my tank to full and overflowing. The combination of an activity that I enjoy, time spent with a grandson that I love, and the fellowship with a good friend that has a history of renewing my emotional energy works well for me. For many, it would be boring and exhausting, so I am not saying it would work for you, but some things will, so be obsessed with figuring out what those things are. Life is too short to spend much time in a blue funk.

I have my life planned out in great detail until 1988, when I will be 90 years old. I have personal goals, ministry goals, relational goals, learning new skills goals, bicycle trip goals, hunting goals, fishing goals, car restoration goals, and many B-HAGs (big hairy audacious goals). One of the principles of goal setting is that we tend to make our short-range ( one year) goals too big and too many, and we tend to make our long-range goals too easy and too few, so I have tried to make quite a few more goals than I think I can accomplish.

The probability of accomplishing all of my goals is zero; I know that well. The likelihood of achieving some things that I have not written out as a goal is 100%. The reason is that there are many events, circumstances, roadblocks, and opportunities that will happen that I have no clue will occur and that are totally outside my control to prevent or change.

James 4:13-15 Come now, you who say, “Today or tomorrow we will go to such and such a city, and spend a year there and engage in business and make a profit.” Yet you do not know what your life will be like tomorrow. You are just a vapor that appears for a little while and then vanishes away. Instead, you ought to say, “If the Lord wills, we will live and also do this or that.”

Detours, roadblocks, obstacles, road construction, and car problems on a five-day driving trip are frustrating because the trip we planned out in detail will have to change and will now take six days or maybe even more. Six of us are starting a 4,000 mile, two-month bicycle trip from the Atlantic Ocean to the Pacific. I have every day planned, all mapped out, every campsite chosen and reserved. What is the probability that the trip will go the way I planned it? Zero!

This problem (not sure that is the right word) of not being able to control or predict most of our future days is what keeps many people from setting goals. The frustration, disappointment, and pain of unrealized goals makes people think that having no goals is a better way to live life. It isn’t!

The solution is to grow strong in the character trait of flexibility. Flexibility acknowledges that God is in charge of my life, He has planned it all out, but He is not telling me ahead of time what those plans are. It is also acknowledging that God has made me a steward of my time, my gifts and abilities, my life and that He expects me to bear much fruit with my life. So, I do the best I can with what I know, and make mid-flight corrections as the wind blows me off course on my airplane trip to Fairbanks, Alaska.

Those with goals and a strong character trait of flexibility will accomplish much more with their life than those who just go with the flow. They will also have more fun as they conquer roadblocks and challenges.

Jefferson Baptist Church has a service on Wednesday night at 6:30 pm and I am preaching on various character traits each Wednesday. This Wednesday I am teaching on the topic of Patience. I would guess that most would believe that they could do with more patience. In 1st Corintians 13 love is described in detail. The very first word that the Bible uses to describe love is patience.

Patience is a way of acting, but more than that it is an attitude of acceptance of others who are at various levels of maturity in their character growth. It is recognizing that everybody is at different places in their growth toward being like Christ, and doesn’t expect them to act perfect at the level they are at. Those with patience also know that not everyone grows at the same rate, there are lots of factors that produce growth in us all.

When most people in a church are patient it creates an environment that allows for great growth in all who are in that church. It is the same for families that are marked by patience. There exists in those Churches and families an atmosphere of freedom and security that takes away the fear of failing and automatically encourages all in the church or family to take greater risks in attempting to accomplish great things with their life resulting in greater maturity.,

Impatient people fail to remember when they were a baby in character growth and maturity and that many were patient with them. Impatient people forget that their growth was the result of God working in their life along with many other people. Those lacking in patience are acting out of personal pride in who they are as if they are a self-made person.

Those with patience will have the most influence in the lives of others in helping and encouraging them to pursue personal character growth. God will see to that. Those with patience aren’t critical or judgmental, they don’t get irritated at what others say and do, they don’t gossip or slander others, and they are often thinking of words they can say and things they can do to encourage and help those in their life to grow.

One of my principles that I teach a lot in my leadership classes is that we all need to budget our time like we do our money. We do that with goals, to do lists, and basic strategy on living life. My basic principle says, “spend your time on paper before you spend it in reality, and then stick to the budget plan.” The purpose is to maintain balance in all areas of our life and to make sure that the high-priority items in our life don’t get run over by worldly activity that is fun but low on eternal value.

The planning of events, responsibilities, and activities for the next month looks good on paper, but if we have unexpected opportunities or crisis in our life what we have planned will change. The people who have the most control over their lives are the most flexible and patient. But our bending doesn’t mean that we don’t maintain our values and priorities.