Proverbs 3:3-4 Do not let kindness and truth leave you; Bind them around your neck, write them on the tablet of your heart. So you will find favor and good repute

In the sight of God and man.

I think most people would like to have favor with God. Several people in the Bible enjoyed God’s favor. Mary, the mother of Jesus, Moses, Joseph, Daniel, and Joseph, Mary’s husband, to name a few. Proverbs 3:3-4 also mentions favor with people. We all tend to do things that make people like us, but to have favor with people is more about being admired than being liked, though I am sure we would like to be with and around those we admire. 

The main requirement for being highly favored by God and people is our kindness. A major emphasis in the Bible is that we are kind to people who are not easy to be kind to, the kind that very few other people are kind to. 

There is no immediate motivation to be kind to difficult people, but my main motivation is the desire to please God and be favored by Him.