The definition of humility is multi-faceted; that is, humility is a significant character trait and is described and understood in various ways. The goal is to become humble in our hearts, in our character. The way we become humble on the inside is to act humble, do what humble people do, and as we faithfully live in a humble manner using self-discipline, we will become humble in our character. The most complete description in Scripture about humility is In Philippians.
Do nothing from selfishness or empty conceit, but with humility of mind regard one another as more important than yourselves; do not merely look out for your own personal interests, but also for the interests of others. Have this attitude in yourselves which was also in Christ Jesus, who, although He existed in the form of God, did not regard equality with God a thing to be grasped, but emptied Himself, taking the form of a bond-servant, and being made in the likeness of men. Being found in appearance as a man, He humbled Himself by becoming obedient to the point of death, even death on a cross.
Humility is all about how we treat people. A humble person puts others ahead of themselves. The biggest place we struggle is in how we talk to other people. The most effective guide for us as we work at being a humble person is to elevate others, build their self-worth, and honor them.
Humble people don’t think about themselves and what they want or need; they are thinking about those around them, what they need. Sometimes we believe that to be humble; we need to put ourselves down; no, we need to lift others up. We don’t do that by making things up that aren’t true or flattering others, but we are “good finders,” we train ourselves to see the positive, the good, and the accomplishments in others and we affirm them with our words.
When we work hard at exalting others, God will exalt us, but if we exalt ourselves He will humble us.