Patty came home at 2:00 am this morning from her trip to Mexico with friends. She was gone for almost 2 weeks, and it was sure nice to have her back home and in my life again. This evening when I got home from the church working I suggested we go out to dinner for a celebration date, and get caught up on conversation. Patty responded by saying that she really didn’t want to go any place, she just wanted to stay home. Of course I got my feelings hurt, and after I pouted for awhile she said, I really would like to go out to dinner with you if we can go someplace where we can go like we are, and not have to shower and change, so we went to the “Jefferson Station” and I had rib eye steak, and she had a huge taco salad. The cool thing about “The Jefferson Station” is that it is 5 minutes from our house, we can go as we are, and the food is great. As we sat talking and eating, I thought, ” I sure have a good wife”. My marriage is a major source of emotional energy for me, and all the energy that I lose each day as I minister to hurting people, Patty restores. Way back in 1988 we went to a Steve and Annie Chapman concert and they sang a song entitled “Cup of Love” and the key words were “keep his cup full” and “keep her cup full”. We have worked hard to do that over the almost 50 years of marriage. Me being the romantic husband that I am looked up the song on “You Tube” and played it to Patty, and she responded by saying, “oooooooooooooh our theme song”!
In all the years of marriage counseling that I have done most of the time the wife blames the problems of their marriage on the husband and the husband blames them on the wife. In the past when we have had marriage problems I will determine that I am 100% the problem, but before I can say that to Patty, she will beat me to the punch and say “I am such a rotten wife, please forgive me”. It is so fun to make up after that. 😀
We are having a marriage retreat at Odell Lake Lodge with great food and fellowship, and Patty and I will be teaching 3 sessions during the weekend of April 5th, 6th, and 7th. Go to our website at http://www.jbc.church and click on the “Marriage Retreat” logo and register to go.