God is alive and well, and very much involved in all the details of our life. A major activity of our God as He works to grow us into the character of Jesus is to reward and bless good behavior and choices, and to discipline and curse bad behavior and choices. We can totally mess up and short circuit this plan and strategy of God to make us like Jesus by one activity, that is to blame others for the consequences that God brings into our life for our poor choices, and to consider it luck when someone else succeeds because God blesses them for their good choices. Such an attitude makes it impossible for us to learn how to live and act in a way that pleases the Lord and to grow in character. This plan of God of reward and consequence can result in very rapid growth if we humbly recognize that we are the cause, and thoughtfully connect the dotes between our behavior and the events that occur in our life. As individuals, we often attribute the success of others to luck or circumstances and make excuses for our own failures. We blame our own poor performance on bad luck, circumstances beyond our control, or others. Total responsibility for failure is a difficult thing to accept, and taking ownership when things go wrong requires extraordinary humility and courage. But doing just that is an absolute necessity to learning, growing as a person.
It started with Adam and Eve when Adam blamed Eve when confronted by God about what he had done, and Eve blamed the serpent. So we have this proneness to blame others in our DNA, we inherited it from Adam. That does not mean we are stuck with it, but it does mean that it won’t be easy to conquer this natural desire to blame others and not to take responsibility for our mistakes and the consequences that always come into our life when we do wrong.
Develop the discipline of every night before going to sleep, of examining your life, decisions, behavior, and choices, for that day, owning the responsibility for doing them, not blaming, not even a little bit, and confessing them to God.
Psalms 51:17 The sacrifices of God are a broken spirit; A broken and a contrite heart, O God, You will not despise.
Isaiah 66:2 But to this one I will look, to him who is humble and contrite of spirit, and who trembles at My word.