Lots of parents quote this verse as a guarantee that their kids will eventually turn around and come back to the Lord. The problem with many is that they think “train” means “teach” or “expose.” so if they faithfully take them to church, Sunday School, Vacation Bible School and “expose” them to the Bible or they teach them the stories in the Bible at home that they have met their part of the deal. The problem is the word is train, a very proactive word that means much more than give information to. Let’s pretend that God has said that if you want your kids to be very successful in life and to go to heaven when they die that they must play Beethoven’s No. 29 B flat major without a mistake. As a parent, what would you do? You would teach and then they would practice, you would teach and they would practice, you would teach and they would practice, and when they got ahead of you, you would find someone else to teach and continue the cycle. That is called training, and that is what Proverbs 22:6 says to do “Train.” Training assumes a plan or strategy, it assumes practice and evaluation, it assumes a goal or target. Kids that hit 18 years of age who have not been we’ll trained, well parented have a significant disadvantage in life.

Most parents assume that because they are parents, they somehow have the knowledge and wisdom to be good parents. They may be good parents, loving parents, but they probably aren’t good trainers, good coaches. What parents need to do is get trained themselves on how to do Proverbs 22:6 effectively. Most parents don’t get training because of the time required, and they won’t know that they needed to get training until it is too late for their kid.

When our first child was born Patty, and I went to several seminars a year on parenting. We bought dozens of books on parenting and read and discussed them. We drove hundreds of miles to get personal counseling on parenting from a Dad of 12 of the best behaved, most disciplined, and amazingly talented family of kids I had ever seen. He gave us 15 minutes a week for three months, and we drove into Portland, a 90-minute drive each week to get it.

I am going to teach a class at JBC on “training our kids” on Sunday mornings at 10:15 am until 11:15 am starting April 11th until June 6th.

Whenever I write about a mess up that I have done or even a sin I have committed, I get more than expected responses, positive responses; it is almost like people enjoy my mistakes😁. It leads me to conclude that the cool dude, I’ve got my act together, perfect leader type is highly overrated, which is a good thing for me. So why do people seem to enjoy a leader’s mistakes? I don’t think it is merely the fallibility of a leader that warms people’s hearts, but it is how he responds to them to maintain his dignity without being a “holier than thou” person. Everybody messes up, sins, and does foolish things regularly. Because our self-worth and dignity are so important to us, we do everything we can to protect them. Most naturally assume that the way to do that is to cover up, excuse, blame others, ignore, lie, or exaggerate our strengths. We tend to do all of the above subconsciously. As can be seen in the political world, leaders who do that are not respected have few admirers, and they aren’t really leaders at all. One of the lessons I have learned is that my mess-ups are usually funny if I don’t take myself too seriously and don’t go through the list of methods to protect myself and my supposed reputation. I don’t enjoy seeing someone blow it or fail at something, but I do enjoy seeing someone blow it big time when he comes out the other side unscathed, with maybe even a more positive image than before. The key for me is to find every sin, even the little itty bitty ones, and character flaws that are in me, hand them all over to God and thank Him for dying for me and paying the penalty for those sins.

Tonight I thought and I wrote, I thought and I wrote, as I wrote the blog for tonight. It was slow going, my brain wasn’t cooperating and I couldn’t seem to get into the mood. After about two hours I was finally close to being done and I was thinking that it was going to be pretty good. I was thinking about how to bring it to a close and while thinking I fell asleep. I only slept for about 5 minutes, but during that five minutes my hand fell on the screen of my Ipad and it erased everything I had just written. Usually, my Ipad saves everything I write, but somehow during this eraser event, I convinced my Ipad not to keep anything. I tried to rewrite it from memory, but it seemed like it had gotten erased from my memory like my Ipad. I finally gave up, and now you are stuck reading this account of why you are stuck with such a pathetic effort at writing.

Have you ever had an event or something that you did, and at the conclusion, the best description you can come up with is, “now that was a complete waste of time!” I call them “Efforts in futility!” Because I have already spent two hours working on this blog, I am not inclined to spend too much more time on it so, sorry this is what you get.

I have a goal of consistently increasing the number of people who subscribe to my blog, and that will happen if the quality is good enough that those who are subscribed read the blog through to the end each day and that many pass it on to others who choose to subscribe to my blog after reading it.

I don’t think I will get very many people who “share” this blog with others. Oh well, tomorrow will be better, I hope so anyway.

My driving desire is to win. It consumes me, and I think about it all the time. God created me to be a winner, and the Bible commands me to be a winner, you too.

1 Corinthians 9:24 Do you not know that those who run in a race all run, but only one receives the prize? Run in such a way that you may win.

Winning means I beat someone at something. My adversary is the devil, my own sinful nature, and the world around me. Seven times in the book of Revelation, it mentions the person who “overcomes, ” which means to be a conqueror, a winner, and after every reference to overcoming a reward is cited. One of those references is in Revelation 3:5;

He who overcomes will thus be clothed in white garments; and I will not erase his name from the book of life, and I will confess his name before My Father and before His angels.

1 Peter 5:8 Be of sober spirit, be on the alert. Your adversary, the devil, prowls around like a roaring lion, seeking someone to devour.

God created the devil to do precisely what he is doing. He knew we wouldn’t grow much in this life without an adversary so He created one for us. As we strive to win, to conquer, to overcome, as we go to war every day we get stronger, wiser, and we grow in character or we lose. Losing can be fatal and most of often is eternal in consequence.

Satan, the devil, our adversary, makes life hard, like he did with Job. Every day we get out of bed there is an additional roadblock, a problem, a crisis, a trial, and we can let it beat us, or we can conquer it, and stomp the devil under our feet.

COVID, I am sure, is a satan-caused and controlled phenomenon that he uses to defeat people, cause fear, cause strife and disunity, and turn people into losers. There will be something else as difficult if not more so coming up one of these days, and probably sooner than later.

A winner, an overcomer, doesn’t ask God to make life easier; he asks Him for strength and wisdom. Warfare is fun as long as you are winning.

The first sign that you are losing is when you complain and grumble and feel sorry for yourself.

I listened to South Dakota’s Governor, Kristi Noem, give her speech at CPAC today. It was a memorable speech that highlighted her wisdom and common sense as a leader. South Dakota never shut their State down; they never closed their schools, they never issued a mask mandate. Listening to her define the role and responsibility of Government was so refreshing. The United States is supposed to be the Land of the Free, the Home of the Brave, but instead we have become the Land of the Mask mandated and the Home of the Fearful. One thing she said repeatedly is that what we have experienced this last year was not based on science, it was based on political agendas and lying media.

Some churches chose not to follow the Government rules on shutdowns, but things in the future are going to get way more complicated than that if the House Equality Act becomes law. Civil disobedience could become a way of life for those who truly believe that we ought to follow and obey God rather than man.

But I am not worried or anxious because I know that God is sovereign, He is in charge, and He has an agenda that includes me.

The title to this blog is not true, it is a fairy tale that sounds cool, but won’t happen and will create a ton of frustration for the person who uses it as motivation in their life.

My motivating slogan is, “pursue the desires of my heart.” I believe if I stay close to God those desires that I have in me will be His desires for me. The tricky part is staying close to God, because if I don’t the desires of my heart can quickly become worldly, carnal, even demonic, and then they are evil desires.

Staying close to God is kind of like having a good marriage; you pursue intimacy in the relationship by following some basic principles. If you don’t follow the principles your emotions and feelings will be what fuels your efforts to grow closer in your relationship, and your emotions easily become focused on self needs and wants, and your efforts at a growing intimacy will become lazy and inconsistent.

The Biblical admonition is “seek the Lord, ” which doesn’t mean you are trying to find Him, He is right there with you all of the time, it means you are seeking to know Him more intimately. For much of my Christian life I thought that knowing God was to understand Him theologically, to know all about Him. To know God like I know Patty seemed illogical because I couldn’t see Him, touch Him, or hear Him.

My journey towards genuine intimacy with God has been gradual, but steady, and has come as a result of being faithful to the basic principles, the disciplines of the Christian life. I read my Bible devotionally almost every day, that is different than studying for a sermon, it is reading with an inner ear alert for a thought that could be from God. I spend time in prayer talking to God every day, often while I am reading His Word. I confess all known sin to God every day spending time reflecting on the day, examining my life, asking Him to show me what needs working on. I work very hard at worshipping well when I am at worship services with our church family, and I try to thank Him all day long for every blessing that comes into my life.

Deuteronomy 4:29 But from there you will seek the Lord your God, and you will find Him if you search for Him with all your heart and all your soul.

1 Chronicles 16:10-11 Glory in His holy name;
Let the heart of those who seek the Lord be glad.
Seek the Lord and His strength;
Seek His face continually.

Psalms 9:10 And those who know Your name will put their trust in You, For You, O Lord, have not forsaken those who seek You.

Psalms 34:10 The young lions do lack and suffer hunger; But they who seek the Lord shall not be in want of any good thing.

Psalms 63:1 O God, You are my God; I shall seek You earnestly; My soul thirsts for You, my flesh yearns for You, In a dry and weary land where there is no water.

Psalms 105:4 Seek the Lord and His strength; Seek His face continually.

In the last year the number of times that I have had someone confront me about not wearing a mask, about my political opinions, or something I wrote or said has been as often as the previous 70 years in my life put together. It seems like that is what we do now, verbally bash people we disagree with, or disagree with us. People have always had differing views on things, different beliefs and values, but now it seems there is this powerful underlying force that pushes people to punish all those who disagree with them. It is difficult not to get caught up in this spirit of the day, and not insult the person who was rude to you.

I have compiled a list of Bible quotes that I am meditating on during the day to help me to act mature and loving all the time.

Don’t be conformed to this world.

Don’t return insult for insult, but instead give a blessing.

Sincerely pray for those who are rude, obnoxious, and mean.

So far as it depends on me be at peace with all men.

A soft answer turns away an angry person.

Rejoice always.

Jesus determines my worth and value as a person, no other person.

Don’t get uptight or anxious about anything, especially about what someone else says.

Act and talk like a free person, someone who isn’t controlled by the behavior of others.

2 Corinthians 5:1-4 For we know that if the earthly tent which is our house is torn down, we have a building from God, a house not made with hands, eternal in the heavens. For indeed in this house we groan, longing to be clothed with our dwelling from heaven, inasmuch as we, having put it on, will not be found naked. For indeed while we are in this tent, we groan, being burdened, because we do not want to be unclothed but to be clothed, so that what is mortal will be swallowed up by life.

I work pretty hard to keep my body in shape and to keep old age at bay. I am riding my stationary bike an hour every day, lifting weights for 30 minutes 3 times a week and continually dieting, and taking vitamins and various food supplements. But I still occasionally feel weary, tired, and aches and pains everywhere, and I just feel like sitting in my chair and groaning. The line in the above verses that I like the most is “so that what is mortal will be swallowed up by life”. Sometimes the best way to describe how I feel is “mortal”, but it will be swallowed up by life soon enough. The thing that I am most grateful for tonight is the confidence that I am born again, in God’s family, headed for heaven, and that I have my new, glorified body waiting for me that is eternal, thank You Jesus, for dying for me.

Yep, in the morning I will get up, take a couple of ibuprofens, and get back at it, hoping that Jesus comes soon.

A great Bible study would be to read through the New Testament and write down every commandment, eliminate duplicates and combine similar ones. Once you have the list finalized, rank them in difficulty, the most challenging first, and the easiest last.

Now what would make it really fun would be to have a dozen people do this and then to compare their lists and then each person explaining the reason for their particular choices, especially the half dozen on the top and bottom of the list.

Another great discussion would be for each person to share what commandments they have never broken in their life and why they think that is.

A discussion question that might be a little too personal for some would be to discuss the commandment they have broken the most and how they have gotten the victory over it if they have or plan on conquering it if they haven’t yet.

Some of the most challenging commands for me are the ones that are difficult to measure, such as “don’t love the world or the things in the world”or “don’t become entangled in the affairs of everyday life”, or the hardest one of all to know how I am doing with, “don’t be prideful. “

The point of this discussion is to think about how we are doing living our life. Some overriding commands are “pursue righteousness, ” “be holy, ””cleanse yourself of all unrighteousness, ” and the main one for me is Jesus saying, “if you love me you will keep my commandments” or “you are my friends if you do what I command you.”

I am not morbid about self-examination and reflective thinking about my life, but I do look in the mirror and see where the dirt is and attempt to wash it off.

Becoming more holy is a lifelong pursuit, so no sense in wasting any time.

A lot of things in life are tough, but I think the most difficult is when someone you love very much is suffering. Patty has been having very severe pain in her hip from her sciatic nerve, and has been in bed all day. She has been in great pain. I like to be able to fix things but there doesn’t seem to be anything I can do to fix it. I offer my sympathy as best I can but it doesn’t seem like it matters much. I would take all the pain on myself if I could but I can’t so I really do nothing to help, which is one of the hardest things, to be worthless as it were to help or make a difference in the life of the person who is most important to you. Just being a spectator with no value or importance in making things better or more bearable is tough.

I pray often that God will give her strength, joy, and peace in spite of the pain, but I haven’t seen any obvious answers to my prayer.

I acknowledge that part of life is pain and that the older we get the more that seems to become part of God’s plan for our life. So I guess one of the prayers that I need to pray is for me, that I would be strong and wise to say just the right words and do the right thing at right time in the midst of the trial.

One of the things I can’t do Jesus did, the Bible says that Jesus took our sins upon himself, He became our sins, and He died for our sins so that we could live with him forever in amazing joy. That is amazing to think about, I simply need to accept His free gift and follow Him and I am forgiven and I get to go to heaven when I die.

Why would anyone refuse to do that, and why would those who are born again fail to share that good news with others. Now that is a great mystery.