One of the worst character flaws that a person can have is pride. We all struggle with pride, but many are proud in character. Pride controls them, and they are blind to it in their life. The Bible says God hates pride, it is an abomination to Him. A major problem for us as people is that we are capable of major blind spots, that is we can have a huge pride problem and not even know it. In our thinking and self talk we have justified all prideful behavior in ourselves until we have no clue that it is there.
Proverbs 11:2 When pride comes, then comes dishonor, but with the humble is wisdom.
Proverbs 29:23 A man’s pride will bring him low, but a humble spirit will obtain honor.
Proverbs 16:18 Pride goes before destruction, and a haughty spirit before stumbling.
Proverbs 16:5 Everyone who is proud in heart is an abomination to the Lord; assuredly, he will not be unpunished.
There are dozens of manifestations of pride in the life of a person who has the character trait of pride, that is ways that pride is acted out. One of those is proud people are not correctable or teachable. They genuinely believe that they know everything they need to know. If you try to correct them or teach them anything they get offended and the resulting conversation ends up being about you and your problems rather than them learning anything.
Pride is so easy to grow in that we don’t see that we have a pride problem as it creeps into our life a little bit at a time. Pride damages our marriage as well as all of our relationships.
To conqueror pride and grow in the character trait of humility train yourself with increasingly more difficult assignments to do and apply in your life. Humble people don’t wake up one morning humble, they have worked hard to train themselves so that their character is pleasing to God.
A simple way to begin this journey is to make a goal to take out one person to lunch four times a year and during the conversation to ask them if they see anything in you that you should work on. And an even simpler version of that suggestion is to ask their advice of doing something like growing tomatoes. Doing things outside your comfort zone regularly and gradually increasing the difficulty is what training is all about. Naive people think they will grow and change just because they are living life.