1 Peter 3:7 You husbands in the same way, live with your wives in an understanding way,
For years I considered 1 Peter 3:7 the hardest command in the Bible to obey, and at times thought it simply impossible. Then I changed my view and understanding of it as a result of a marriage seminar that JBC did via video years ago. The speaker said successfully doing this verse was very important to a healthy marriage, but then he said this incredibly freeing statement, “living with your wife in an understanding way doesn’t mean that you understand her, but it does mean that you need to learn how.” For some reason I thought I was supposed to figure it out on my own, or automatically know it intuitively, but the speaker said, “figuring it out on your own is impossible!” Hallelujah, I knew that! He said, “ask guys who have been married for 50 years who have good marriages, ask marriage counselors, read good books on marriage, and go to seminars.” Then he said this, “the best source for the information on how to live with your wife in an understanding way is your own wife!” I thought, yeh right! If I ask Patty she will tell me that I ought to know already! He went on to say, “word the questions wisely and ask on a date in a nice restaurant. “ So we went on a date to a nice restaurant that I planned and arranged for, including getting a babysitter, and after a nice dinner I asked this question, “I really want to be the kind of husband that will make you the happiest woman on the planet earth, but I don’t know how, I need for you to be my marriage manual, my coach. Could you share with me one thing that I could change, do better at, start doing ,or stop doing that would make you happy?” It has been so many years ago I don’t remember what she said, but I do remember that she wasn’t at all upset with the question and that the counsel she gave me seemed very reasonable and doable. And the other thing I remember is that she then asked me what one thing she could do to make me the happiest man on the planet earth. I do remember what I said!