Job 10:2 I will say to God, ‘Do not condemn me; Let me know why You contend with me.
The thing that bugged job was he didn’t know why he was suffering. He asks why at least a dozen times in the book of Job. We often assume that trials and suffering are because of something we have done wrong and God is punishing us. If I go through a trial because of something I have done wrong, a bad choice in life, I will know it, and I will know exactly why, it won’t be a mystery. The story that Jesus tells of the prodigal son illustrates this point. The son asks his father for his share of the inheritance early and goes out and spends it all on parties. He ends up broke and he finds a job feeding pigs, and he is so hungry he eats the pig food. It says in the Bible that the young man came to his senses, meaning he knew exactly why he was in the pickle he was in, and he decides to go back to his Dad and confess his stupidity and see if his dear old Dad will hire him as a servant.
Isaiah 64:8 But now, O Lord, You are our Father, We are the clay, and You our potter; And all of us are the work of Your hand.
There are multiple reason why we go through trials, but the main one is that God is the potter and we are the clay, and He is making a beautiful vessel that looks like Jesus on the inside where it matters. The potter shapes the clay by putting pressure on the lump of ugly clay in just the right places, in just the right amounts. A little hard spot messes up the work so he picks it out, pounds the clay into a soft glob and starts over, and then finds another hard spot and repeats the process over and over until it is a beautiful vessel. The Father used this very process on His own Son, because He came into the world exactly like us, and like us He was born with no character, so God the Father shaped and molded Him to be perfect in character.
Hebrews 2:10 For it was fitting for Him, for whom are all things, and through whom are all things, in bringing many sons to glory, to perfect the author of their salvation through sufferings.
Hebrews 5:8-9 Although He was a Son, He learned obedience from the things which He suffered. And having been made perfect, He became to all those who obey Him the source of eternal salvation,
It is the trials that God takes us through to develop our character that we often can’t figure out because we are looking for an event that was the cause, but there is no event other than our less than perfect character that God continuously works on to perfect us into the image of Christ. The trials that come into our life are an incomprehensible act of love on God’s part as He works at making us like Himself so that we can enjoy His fellowship for all eternity , and He ours because we are alike. God loves us to much to leave us imperfect.
God’s wise and loving work in our lives won’t produce Christ like character if we get bitter, grumble and complain, allow our self talk to spiral down to self pity, and don’t trust the Lord and seek His strength. This is exactly what most people do, so all that God has done is wasted. Suffering is painful, but it is temporary, and then we enter into heaven like Jesus in character if we have rejoiced in our suffering.