Motivating

Most parents attempt to motivate their kids to act and behave right. I am around lots of parents with their kids in airports, stores, sporting events, school events, and church events. Most of the attempts at controlling their kids behavior is by scolding, threatening, yelling, and yelling louder, none of which does any good. When I get asked for advice from parents I counsel them to use reward and consequence that is clearly defined ahead of time, and consistently practiced. Reward for right behavior and consequence for wrong behavior, and make both the reward and consequence significant enough to truly motivate. Probably the easiest and most effective reward is money, and the consequence would be loss of money. Creative parents can think up all kinds of rewards and loss of rewards that would motivate their kids and end the anger, threatening, and yelling that takes place in so many families. The reason that I think this is a good thing for wise parents to do is because this is what God does to motivate us, He rewards good behavior and He has consequences for wrong behavior. In reading through the Bible the are hundreds of verses where God states clearly what the rewards and consequences are. One such verse is 1 Peter 3:10 “The one who desires life, to love and see good days, must keep his tongue from evil and his lips from speaking deceit.” The reason most Christians are not motivated by these statements in the Bible is because (1) they really do not believe God pays enough attention to them to know what they are doing, (2) they have a distorted, inaccurate view of God’s mercy and love so they think God will overlook and forgive anything they do, and (3) because they can’t see God they simply forget about Him, and forget that He is in charge. A simple definition of the “fear of the Lord” is “God sees everything we do, hears everything we speak, know everything we think, rewards good behavior and disciplines wrong behavior.” Galatians 6:7 Do not be deceived, God is not mocked; for whatever a man sows, this he will also reap.

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