Everybody knows about getting your feelings hurt, getting offended by what someone says or does, and feeling slighted, unappreciated and unloved. Some are so prone to being hurt or offended that most of their relationships are strained if not broken because people can’t relax around them for fear of saying or doing something that sets them off. There are all kinds of reasons why a person gets to be an adult and their self-worth is so fragile that they are constantly getting their feelings hurt by almost everyone in their life, but regardless of the reason they ought to diligently pursue getting even a little bit tougher minded.
I have a personal goal to totally conquer the “hurt feeling” syndrome in my life. I realize that I can’t stop the initial feeling or emotion of being hurt by someone’s words, but I can choose what I think about after the initial blow to my ego so that the feeling of being unloved or unappreciated quickly goes away, and I don’t react in facial expression or in words. Taking my thoughts captive is a simple matter of having appropriate Bible verses memorized that I can set my mind on and meditate on when I recognize that my thinking is being led in the wrong direction by my emotions.
There are two big challenges that most people won’t make the effort to conquer to become tough minded. The first is to memorize a few Bible verses well enough that they can quickly start running it through their mind when their mind starts thinking wrong thoughts. The second is to learn how to listen to their thoughts and choose to not let wrong thinking continue and choose to think about the appropriate Bible verses they have memorized.
Here is my strategy, you are welcome to use it as your own.
(1) Every morning in my prayer of commitment (if you are interested in seeing my full every morning prayer of commitment email me and I will send it to you firstname.lastname@example.org) I will pray this commitment, “today if I get my feelings hurt by someone’s words or actions, I will choose to set my mind on
1 Corinthians 13:4-7 “Love is patient, love is kind and is not jealous; love does not brag and is not arrogant, does not act unbecomingly; it does not seek its own, is not provoked, does not take into account a wrong suffered, does not rejoice in unrighteousness, but rejoices with the truth; bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.”
(2) I will memorize 1 Corinthians 13:4-7 super perfect so that I can switch what I am thinking about quickly.
(3) If I blow it and say something in retaliation, or defensive, I will journal about my bad behavior and determine where I lost control of my thinking and repent and recommit to doing it right next time.
This strategy is working very well in my life, it has been months since I have had even a small, insignificant issue with getting my feelings hurt and I