Some marriages are husband and wife. Other marriages are God, husband and wife. Marriages that have God as a member have huge advantages over the marriage that don’t.
Revelation 3:20 Behold, I stand at the door and knock; if anyone hears My voice and opens the door, I will come in to him and will dine with him, and he with Me.
God becomes part of a couples marriage who invite Him to be part. When He is an official member of our marriage relationship because we invited Him to be, He gives us strength to do the things that are very difficult to do, but so important. The command to husbands in Ephesians is to love our wives to the same degree that Jesus loved the church and gave his life for the church. That is an impossible command without God’s strength. God gives us the wisdom to know what to say and do in any and every situation that could come up in a marriage.