Relationships grow close and intimate with good communication. Talking to another person or to a group of people in such a way that they are truly taught, motivated, blessed with joy, and feel loved is a skill that we can develop, or not.
Proverbs 16:23-24 The heart of the wise instructs his mouth and adds persuasiveness to his lips. Pleasant words are a honeycomb, sweet to the soul and healing to the bones.
Most learn their communication skills from the people they grow up with, their peers, and television. Some have been blessed with good models who have gracious speech and good communication skills, but most have not. Speech in a culture without purposeful and strategic work to improve will gradually deteriorate in clarity, that is it won’t communicate clearly so others can understand the message, it will lose it’s power to influence, and the quality of relationships will suffer.
Nothing has the power to knit people together in real unity that results in joy as much good communication does. When we can clearly share our needs, our struggles, our pain and disappointments others are moved to support and encourage us. When we paint pictures with our words of our dreams, our desires, and our goals others are inspired to help us. When we speak words that give grace to those who are hurting they are drawn to us. When we stir and inspire others to growth and greater accomplishment with our timely encouragement they will value us.
Many relationships, marriages, families, and friends struggle, and are filled with conflict, hurt feelings, lack of joy, feelings of being misunderstood, unappreciated, and unloved because of poor communication skills.
Wisdom in communication comes to the person who seeks it diligently. It comes to those who seek it humbly from those around them who obviously have this skill. To those who read good books on how to “win friends and influence people”. It especially comes to those who, when they have relational struggles assume the blame for having communicated poorly, selfishly, rudely, or hurtfully, and diligently work at improving by learning the skills of good communication.