Of the 10 laws that will result in an awesome marriage #8 is just for the wives. This law is based on Proverbs 12:4. “An excellent wife is the crown of her husband, but she who shames him is like rottenness in his bones.” An excellent wife makes her husband feel like a king. She does that by how she talks to him. The opposite of an excellent wife is one who shames her husband, and makes him feel like he has advanced cancer in his bones. She does that by how she talks to him. The greatest fear in men is shame. We were created by God for glory, but we lost our glory when we sinned for the first time, and continue to lose it almost on a daily basis. Men look for glory in their work, in hobbies, in accomplishments, by boasting and bragging, in sports, but never seem able to find it. 1 Corinthians 11:7 says, ” For a man ought not to have his head covered, since he is the image and glory of God; but the woman is the glory of man.” Man is the glory of God, and the woman is the glory of man”. In Genesis 2:18 God says that He will create a helper for Adam suitable for him. A helper is not someone who cooks and cleans house, but someone who makes her husband complete and helps maximize his character growth in this life. She does that by giving him glory with the words she thoughtfully speaks to him, and as a result of those glory giving words she finds herself married to a very happy man who is motivated, energetic, a visionary of his own life and his family. We live in a culture that is critical in thinking and rude in speech. A wife who follows the example of our culture will destroy her own marriage with her own words. To be a wife that gives glory to her husband by her words, and doesn’t criticize, grumble, compare, and tear down she needs to premeditate her words of praise to her husband, and learn to listen, really listen to her words to her husband.