So I have identified 10 key principles that I call commandments that contribute to a really good marriage. The third one is, “Don’t say or do anything that angers, irritates, hurts, or offends your spouse. It doesn’t take very long being married before we discover what our husband or wife doesn’t like or appreciate, what we can say that will hurt their feelings, and what irritates them. It is amazing to me how many spouses will do one of these things on purpose as a payback, because we are upset about something that happened to us, or because we are just being thoughtless. Ephesians 4:29 ought to be an often meditated on verse for every married person, which says, “Let no unwholesome word come out of your mouth, but only such a word as is good for edification, according to the need of the moment, that it might give grace to those who hear.” A life purpose of mine is to “be God’s instrument of righteousness in the life of Patty to give her great joy so that she is the happiest woman alive on the planet earth.” I make a commitment every morning to pursue this purpose diligently and I ask God for the wisdom and strength each day to make it happen.