Humility has a number of different facets to it, and pride does as well. Probably the most common one is “I don’t need you, I can do it by myself”. The reason this attitude is very common is because most tend not to see that expression as a weakness, fault, or character flaw, but as a strength of self-sufficiency. But God made us with a very narrow area of strength, giftedness, and ability, and in order to accomplish anything of significance we need to do it with others. The most powerful group to corporately accomplish significant things with is the church. Most see the church as an option in their life, and their view of the church is so low their involvement is unfaithful to the point that they gain little and give little.
Hebrews 10:24-25 and let us consider how to stimulate one another to love and good deeds, not forsaking our own assembling together, as is the habit of some, but encouraging one another; and all the more as you see the day drawing near.
These two verses are very emphatically stated as commands to be kept diligently, but most are totally blind to the emphasis of these verses, and the consequence of failing to obey these three commands. All that God gives to us in life He gives to us through other people. He made it that way, but we don’t seem to get it. It would be like if there was one person who can feed me, only one, and if I eat food from any other source I will die. And there also is only one person who can give me my Parkinson’s medicine, and if I take it from any other source, I will get super sick. And there is a dozen other things like that with different people ministering to each other, and others in the group have the dependency on me.
Romans 12:3-6. For through the grace given to me I say to everyone among you not to think more highly of himself than he ought to think; but to think so as to have sound judgment, as God has allotted to each a measure of faith. For just as we have many members in one body and all the members do not have the same function, so we, who are many, are one body in Christ, and individually members one of another. Since we have gifts that differ according to the grace given to us, each of us is to exercise them accordingly: