one of my regular stated concerns about myself is, “it is possible for me to do all the right things for all the wrong reasons’, and then a further alarming statement is, “it is possible for me to do all the right things for all the wrong reasons and not even know it”!! One of the wrong motives for doing good would be to please or impress people. Self-worth is a human need, and most people get their sense of worth and value from people. The people around us become a mirror of sorts, and we look into the mirror to see who we are. If we don’t like what we see then we perform for them trying to ratchet up their opinion of us so that we see a cool person in the mirror. That system of building our self-worth is a house of cards because of people’s fickleness, and we intuitively know that resulting in insecurity, unhealthy comparisons, criticalness of others, and a constant feeling of hurt because people aren’t appreciating our efforts to please them.
Whatever you do, do your work heartily, as for the Lord rather than for men, knowing that from the Lord you will receive the reward of the inheritance. It is the Lord Christ whom you serve.
I recite these two verses throughout the day to remind myself who I am serving, and who I am trying to please with my life and activities. The cool thing about pleasing the Lord is that He is much more concerned about our motive then He is about perfection. He is incredibly, gracious, patient, and forgiving when our motives are right, and when He whispers to our heart, “well done, good and faithfull servant, enter into the joy of your master” our sense of worth and value is at the top.
When we receive our sense of worth and value from the Lord and not from people we are freed up to serve them and meet their needs with great confidence and freedom because we aren’t worrying about their opinion.