The failure to forgive anybody of anything is probably the biggest problem that most people have, and brings the greatest consequences into their life of anything that they do. Matthew 6:14-15 says, “For if you forgive others for their transgressions, your heavenly Father will also forgive you. But if you do not forgive others, then your Father will not forgive your transgressions.” That is a pretty black and white statement. Have you ever thought of all the consequences that will come into your life if God doesn’t forgive you of your sins, there are many and they are significant. If God doesn’t forgive you of your sins, He won’t answer your prayers, He won’t even listen to your prayers. If God doesn’t forgive you of your sins you will have little energy, you will be tired all the time, you will have no joy, and you will have a growing despondency. If God doesn’t forgive you of your sins He gives demons permission to make your life as miserable as they possibly can, and they have had a lot of years practicing on that fine art of theirs. And the list goes on, there are at least 30 different consequences that come into the life of the person who chooses not to forgive anybody of anything no matter how bad it might be, no matter how many times they have done it.
In our warped reasoning we think that we are punishing people for what they did or said by choosing not to forgive them. They don’t pay any price for our choosing not to forgive them, but we pay an awful price. Or we think that if we forgive them we are saying that what they did was no big deal. What we are saying is that my sins were a very big deal to God because He is holy, and just, and God, and He died for my sins so that I could be forgiven. He freely forgave me, and He asks us to forgive anybody else in the same way we have been forgiven.
Some have said, I can forgive, I just can’t forget. Every time you have a thought about what someone did to you, forgive them again, and again whenever a thought pops into your head. If you faithfully do that it won’t be that long before it is gone, God will see to that as you faithfully forgive every time you remember.
Bitterness is a poison and it will destroy you.