I have a wonderful wife and a near perfect marriage. Proverbs 12:4 “An excellent wife is the crown of her husband, But she who shames him is like rottenness in his bones.” An excellent wife is the crown of her husband, which means she makes him feel like a king, she fills him with glory, she makes him feel like he is Samson, and can do most anything. On the other hand a wife who criticizes, corrects, especially in front of others, scolds, talks down to, and shames her husband with her words is like “rottenness in his bones”! Which basically means she is killing him with a slow and painful death.
Though our marriage is about as good as they come now it wasn’t that way in the beginning years. There was lots of yelling and tears and silent treatment and hurt feelings and resentment, repeated over and over again. It is hard to know for sure all that caused the change in both of us over the years to bring about what we enjoy today, but it was mostly just working at it and communicating and we gradually grew in character by the work and desire to have a good relationship. The basic disciplines of the Christian life of Bible reading, prayer, examining our own life and confessing our own sins, forgiving each other quickly and not holding grudges or remaining bitter were keys to our personal growth and the growth in our unity and love for each other and for God.