I have read and studied the Bible extensively over the last 50 years of ministry. I have listened to many sermons online and read many books on every book in the Bible, and I think probably on every doctrine in the Bible. There are many different views on every topic and doctrine in the Bible. Over the years of studying, I have formed a strong personal opinion on all those doctrines, what I believe is true and accurate, and what is false.

Now, the problems arise when I am around people with different opinions and views than mine. Sometimes, it is in person and sometimes online. I read stuff daily on Facebook and other places that make me shudder. Sometimes, the other person will initiate a conversation about our differences when they hear or read mine. That discussion can be gracious or combative. Over the years, I have changed considerably in responding to these differences. I have written out some personal rules and guidelines for how I will respond and talk to people with different views and beliefs than mine.

1. Follow the Apostle Paul’s advice to Timothy, his protege, closely.
   2 Timothy 2:23-25 “But refuse foolish and ignorant speculations, knowing that they produce quarrels. The Lord’s bond-servant must not be quarrelsome, but be kind to all, able to teach, patient when wronged, with gentleness correcting those who are in opposition, if perhaps God may grant them repentance leading to the knowledge of the truth.”
2. Is this a topic or doctrine that is essential for salvation? If it isn’t, don’t get too excited.
3. Remember, a healthy relationship is more important than winning a debate.
4. Remember, you are inclined to debate not so much for the benefit of the other person or in defense of essential truth as much as in the fleshly desire to be right; check your motives carefully.
5. Is there a possibility that I may convince the other person, and they will change their views? If not, it isn’t worth the risk of alienating them.
6. Discussions on politics, Christian doctrine, and practice can get emotional quickly. Remember, you usually regret emotional conversations afterward, so switch quickly to fishing or hunting.
7. Remember, some of your views and beliefs have changed several times over the years; there is a possibility they might change again. Be a listener and a learner as well as a defender of the truth.