A fifth reason for trials is really a corollary to reason four. We experience trials as a consequence of our poor choices in life. The Bible, especially the Book of Proverbs, is full of warnings about what will happen to us if we make certain choices in life. If we jump off of a high cliff, we will probably die. The book of Proverbs is all about gaining wisdom so that we make the right choices that will result in success in life. I have counseled people in years past who were in great despair because of their financial situation caused by impulsive overspending for years. They could moan and groan about how God didn’t love them or about the terrible economy, but they are in a deep hole that they, themselves, dug. Proverbs lists a dozen consequences that will come into the life of a person who doesn’t learn to control his anger. It also lists consequences to the person who becomes addicted to alcohol. The purpose of the trials we experience because of foolish decisions and choices is to become wise. However, like the other reasons for trials, the purpose of the trials happens to some and not to others, depending on their response to their trials. One of my Dad’s often-quoted sayings was, “There are a lot of old fools running around; just because you get old doesn’t mean you will get wise.”

When you experience a trial, pray a lot and ask God for strength to bear up under it victoriously. Ask for wisdom so that you know how to conquer it and for what reason it is happening to you. Look for wise people around you who can give you counsel and advice. When someone gives you comfort, thank them and thank the Lord for them. Journal about your experiences and feelings so that when you are through the trial, you will know how to help others who may go through similar trials in the future.

Don’t waste your sorrows.