1 John 2:15 Do not love the world nor the things in the world. If anyone loves the world, the love of the Father is not in him.

That is a serious verse. How do I know if I am loving the world? One straightforward way to find out is to ask ourselves how we react to the sudden and unexpected loss of something we own. If we take it hard, with much hand-wringing and whining, we probably have a strong case of loving the world. How about when someone does something unintentionally and damages something you own? Do you get angry and risk damaging a relationship over some property that has no eternal value? Do you fret and worry about your finances or the future.

Loving the world means you depend on it for your security and joy.

Those who love the world will struggle to find time to read their Bibles every day and to pray faithfully, and they will find a million excuses for not getting involved in any ministry opportunities in their church.

The big sin in the Old Testament committed by the nation of Israel over and over again was idolatry. It is crazy the number of times that they would worship some pagan god, and Yahweh would allow them to be conquered by another nation. The Jews would then repent, and God would deliver them from their enemies, and then they would go right back to worshiping some pagan god again.

On a mission trip to Bangkok, Thailand, I saw stone statues of what looked like humans, and people would take gold leaf and stick it to the stone statue in places where they had pain, hoping that their own pain would go away as they bribed this stone god with their gold. As I watched people stick the gold to the head, back, or knee of these statues that had no life, I wondered how people could be so deceived.

Our idolatry is a bit more sophisticated; we worship money. Instead of stone statues, we worship paper with a President’s head on it. Instead of calling it idolatry, God calls it love of money or worldliness. The result is the same: God disciplines us by letting life conquer us.

God expects that we will worship Him only, and if any other god comes into our life He will destroy it and discipline us.

I sleep approximately eight hours daily and usually eat three meals, sometimes two. I brush my teeth; some people brush their teeth three times a day, but I only brush mine once. Every day, I take my vitamins and supplements, and I try very hard to tell Patty I love her five times every day and talk to her every day when I am home and on the phone when I am gone. I ride my stationary bike every day for one hour, and while riding it, I read twelve chapters in my Bible and 20 pages in a good book. I write my blog most days, which usually takes me about two hours, and I also write for twenty minutes in my journal. I spend 30 minutes to an hour in prayer every day, and I also try to pray with Patty three times weekly and at a corporate prayer time at the church three times weekly. I also shower most days, weigh myself, and record my weight. All of the above takes approximately 100 hours each week. I would consider that non-negotiable time, locked in and very seldom deviated from. That leaves 68 hours each week to divide between teaching, studying, meetings, travel, fishing, home projects, family time with kids and grandkids, and dates with Patty. One of my life goals is Ephesians 5:16, which says, “Make the most of your time.” The key to that for me is lists that I check off, good record keeping, and a strong commitment to not waste or while away time. That doesn’t mean that I don’t watch sports, play an occasional “Angry Birds” game, periodically watch a Western or wartime video movie, or read a Tom Clancy novel.
Time management is like budgeting and managing your limited income, budging for essentials, and occasionally splurging on a dinner out or a movie.
The basic motivation is to please the Lord and be wise in using limited time and money to accomplish as much as possible.

There are a handful of Bible verses that have become ones that I go to a lot in my thinking as I live life and face different situations. One of them is 2 Corinthians 5:9 “Therefore we have as our ambition, whether at home or absent, to be pleasing to Him.” I regularly ask myself if I am pleasing the Lord with my present or past behavior. Does it make any difference in my life if I am pleasing Him? What difference does it make in my life if I am pleasing the Lord? I think diligently working on my behavior with the ambition to please my Savior in all that I do makes a massive difference in my life. God gives those who please Him joy, an inner joy that rises above circumstances. God gives strength to those who please Him. He provides open doors and opportunities to accomplish great things for Him. Those who please Him become His favorites. Many verses in the Bible speak of God’s favorites. Mary, the mother of Jesus, was one of God’s favorites. Daniel, David, Noah, and Enoch are a few of God’s favorites. I want to be one of God’s favorites in this life and eternity. “We have as our ambition.” I can confidently say that I live life with the driving ambition to please Him with all that I do, say, and think. I constantly wish I were doing better, but I am doing better than I once did, and I believe I will do better every day that I live.
Proverbs 12:2 A good man will obtain favor from the Lord,
Proverbs 3:4 So you will find favor and good repute in the sight of God and man.
Proverbs 8:35 For he who finds wisdom finds life and obtains favor from the Lord.
Proverbs 12:2 A good man will obtain favor from the Lord,
Genesis 6:8 But Noah found favor in the eyes of the Lord.

When I was 12, I went deer hunting for the first time. I went with my Dad, and I carried an empty rifle. Dad was a fanatic on gun safety, and he told me that if I didn’t make one mistake in handling my rifle for the entire season the following year, he would give me one bullet, and if I didn’t make any mistakes that second year, I would then be awarded a full box of ammunition. Dad used to say, “All it takes is a few seconds of carelessness to kill someone.” When I went hunting with my Dad, my mind switched to fanatic gun safety mode; I am still like that when I hunt with a rifle.

I have learned over the years that my words have tremendous power to heal, encourage, and teach truth to people. My words can also wound, hurt, and discourage people as well. The main difference between the two is carelessness, lack of self-control, and the failure to take seriously the power of my words to give life or destroy.

Proverbs 18:21 Death and life are in the power of the tongue, and those who love it will eat its fruit.

I am training myself to go into a hyper-cautious mode the minute I step into a social setting. The hard part is that as a member of a large family and the pastor of a large church, that is much of my time. It is easy to be on “high alert” for short amounts of time, but when social time drags into hours, carelessness in speech sets in. I repeat a few axioms in my mind to help me maintain control of my words.
Don’t talk too much.
Keep stories short.
Proverbs 10:19 When there are many words, transgression is unavoidable, but he who restrains his lips is wise.
Don’t grumble or complain about anything.
Don’t gossip or slander.
Don’t try to impress.
Ask good questions.
Honor people by listening attentively.
Use humor, but don’t be stupid.
Mention the Bible, church, or Jesus as is appropriate.
Remember to ask God for wisdom and self-control often.
James 3:2 For we all stumble in many ways. If anyone does not stumble in what he says, he is a perfect man, able to bridle the whole body as well.

I am writing this blog in my recliner, eating pieces of sliced cheese on little rice crackers. It is Brie Cheese, that soft French cheese with a pungy taste, my favorite. Patty came home tonight after she went for a doctor’s visit. She stopped on the way home and bought it for me as a treat. I felt very special and loved.

It is funny how little effort it takes to make someone feel special, but it does take thinking about others and what would bless them. My problem is that my thinking is so often locked onto goals, to-do lists, and projects that I don’t think of little things like what Patty thought of for me.

I have a project to train myself to think about others more, much more than I usually do, especially Patty, to think about things I can do that communicate love, concern, and care. I often excuse myself by saying that is not how I am or think. That is why I need to train myself, so that is the way I think, and that is who I am. One of the beautiful things about how God created us is that we can grow, change, and improve if we want to and choose to. I certainly want to, and I am choosing to, as well.