I try very hard to get along with every person in my life, but there are a few that are a major challenge. It isn’t that they upset me, but that I am regularly offending them. I try very hard not to, but it doesn’t seem to matter how hard I try, I still do things, and say things that hurt their feelings. There are 2 problems, the first is these people are hyper sensitive to slights, words or deeds that put them down . The second problem is that I am very focused in my thinking, so when I am thinking about something I don’t notice things around me, and if I happen to be around some of these sensitive people they regularly interpret my lack of attentiveness toward them as I don’t like them, or I am upset with them, or whatever. I eventually hear about “our problems”, and go and see if I can reconcile with them by “eating dirt”, that is I take all the blame and al the responsibility for the relational difficulty. I usually get things worked out between us until the next time. It isn’t like a weekly event or anything like that, more like twice a year. If it were weekly I probably would stop all mental activity any time I was around them so I wouldn’t goof up . I have thought about this challenge in my life and ministry, and I have come to the conclusion that I need to practice what Jocko Willink calls “Extreme Ownership”, which means I own the responsibility 100% of every relational failure in my life, the little hiccups and the full blown, major conflicts. The result in my life according to Jocko in his book, “Extreme Ownership” is that I will grow rapidly in character, and I will grow in the skill of being able to do two things at once, that would be nice.